1. UNPLUG YOUR T.V
If you are a caring parent, and is concerned about your child’s result you can do worse than unplugging your TVs, you may take a hammer and drive it straight through the damned TV screen, or something like that.
Now I can see that frown on your forehead. You are a rich parent, and you have allotted a separate study room for your darling. Your question is, “How is my watching the television going to have an impact on my child?”
It has. Period.
Switching off your TV is not everything. The time you gain by it is to be spent sitting with your child. You don’t have to teach anything; just be present. If you like reading, do that while your ward is studying, if not, sit down in the same room with a reassuring smile, and just observe them putting in their hearts and souls into studying.
2. DON’T SAY ‘YOU CAN’T’
There is nothing worse than you can do than keep telling your child that they can’t live upto your expectations. If they actually can’t that definitely is not their problem, but yours. Who on earth asked you to make plans for another person? Dear father, dear mother, may I humbly tell you – straight on your face – that they are not born to fulfill your expectations, rather it is your moral responsibility to support theirs.
At every possible opportunity, encourage them, give them confidence, tell them you trust them, tell them you only want them to give it their best, tell them they can. Constant motivation and positive talk will definitely bear fruit.
3. DON’T COMPARE YOUR WARDS PRESENT WITH YOUR PAST
Are you one of those parents who struggled in school, but now keep telling your child how brilliant you were in school, and how your teachers and parents were proud of you? May be you were actually great at school, you topped every exam you appeared, and now want your child to do the same. Let me tell you this: your child is not you, and he is not growing up in a world you did, whatsoever.
Constant comparison can, at best, instill a feeling of uselessness in your child, or it can make your child believe that he is actually an idiot – good-for-nothing, what more? Of course you should share the best learning practices of your time, but don’t insist on your ward learning only that way. Most school education boards these days lay emphasis on understanding and application, and not just on gaining knowledge.
4. SAVE YOU WARD FROM FEAR OF FAILURE
At this point in time the greatest fear your child is experiencing is fear of failure, not literally. I don’t mean every board examinee is afraid of failing in the board examinations. But most students, perhaps your child included, is afraid of failure in delivering what is expected of them; some might be afraid of forgetting, some might be afraid of not being able to utilize time etc. Very often, fear of failure springs from the thought that so much is left to learn. Ask your ward to focus on what he has learnt, and be confident about it. In the coming days they can keep adding to this storehouse of knowledge.
One thing you can do as apparent is to help them boost their confidence. No examination aims at judging a student based on what they have not learnt, on the contrary all examinations aim at awarding maximum possible marks for what a candidate has learnt. So the approach is positive.
5. GET THEM TO DO PAST PAPERS
The best thing you can do right now as a parent is to get your ward to attempt as many past papers as possible. Whether your ward is in a Cambridge school, I B School, CBSE School, ICSE School or a state board school, the board can only change the wording of the question, they can’t change the concept the lesson has taught. That is to say the object a question tests remains same even as the way they are framed differ.
There is no alternative to solving past papers. It will help you know whether your ward is able to cope with the time set for the examinations. It definitely builds confidence. An added advantage of solving past papers is that the answer key/ marking scheme to most past papers are available online for free, irrespective of the board of education, and so you can help your ward evaluate their response.
All said and done, there is nothing more valuable you can give your ward than your time.